self statements and the inability to say no.

I've posted before about the proto ego ideal and compulsions.

Freud mentions the dictatorial thou shalts of the ego ideal and there are many different forms of compulsive character in egoists. Compulsive workaholics, compulsive 'my way of doing things is the best' types, compulsive schedulers who must maximize all their time, compulsive obsessives who think about old relationships or certain subjects, people who are compulsively self-reliant and learn to live as if they will be surviving on their own, compulsive cleaners, compulsive hoarders, etc.

When the person brings up the compulsion as ego alien they can talk about the dictatorial part and call it oppressive, tyrannical, an asshole, annoying, etc. and you-statements can be formed that will link it to parental-substitutes. The discharge of aggression towards them will result in some relief from the symptom.

With altruists who are unable to say no to others the ego ideal inhibition on saying it is analyzed through the other person. "If you said no to your sister [who asked to borrow money, which you gave although you didn't want to] what do you think she would think about you?"

"She would think I don't care about her, that I'm selfish, etc."

If you say "you don't care about me, you are selfish, etc., who comes to mind?"

"My boyfriend" "My mom"

The ego ideal inhibition to say no shows up as an introjection from a parental-substitute who treated one badly.

   

Pugneus stage (to replace volar).

Pugnus, is Latin for fist, punch, fistful, and handful. 

The id aggression at this deutero phase, is punching but is felt as wailing on, or beating up a father-substitute or being so beaten, oneself. I mentioned it in relation to the Matrix before, and how the computer agents and the hand to hand combat they'd get into with Neo et al, was a stronger emphasis than the actual death aspect.  

As we've seen in the Odyssey, oral cannibalistic impulses to swallow whole (proto), and then later to eat the skin of others (the bite of conscience in the full trito), are also part of this stage.

I realized that the hand was also part of feminine development at the earlier part-ego stage and that volar is probably a better designation for that phase.

It also raises the interesting idea of whether erotogenic zones aren't passed back and forth in masculine and feminine development. 

Hands in the feminine in the part-ego stage to hands in the masculine in the pugneus stage 

oral impulses in the masculine in the pugneus stage to oral impulses in the feminine in the anal stage (i.e. Persephone eating the pomegranate, Little Red Riding Hood and the wolf)

ocular impulses in the masculine in the part-ego stage, and ocular impulses in the feminine in the pugneus stage.

... I'm glad I caught this before my next book. This is another post I'll make soon.